Parenting Through a Divorce

Whether an adult or child, adjusting through a divorce takes time. It’s hardest for everyone during the first year, when changes are new. Parenting through a divorce is the time to protect your children from whatever adverse conditions the divorce may impact.

Parenting Through A Divorce

• If possible, shield them from witnessing conflict between you and your spouse.

• Don’t lean on your children for emotional support, or expect them to pass on messages between the two of you.

• Children have fantasies that they are the cause of the divorce or that they can somehow keep you two together. They may also fear abandonment.

• Explain to the child that divorce does not mean the end of the relationship with either of the parents.

• Reassure them that they are not in any way at fault, and that their needs will be taken care of.

• Joint custody arrangements are in the child’s best interest. Encourage them to have time with their other parent.

• Give them loving and consistent structure and discipline.

• Cooperation between you and your ex will help your child feel less stress.

Children will adapt to the changes of a divorce at their own pace, some faster than others. Allow them to express their feelings and provide support and love to help them through this time.

Written by: Ruby Moseley, Rust Built, Marketing Services